I'm not a person who collects friends for sport. I have a few good friends and I'm okay with that. Before life got sort of complicated, I was actually a pretty good friend! Now, not so much - although I think about my friends a lot and hope they all are well, time with two little ones doesn't always allow for much socializing these days.
I married, by society's standards, pretty late in life. I was in my mid-30s. By then, most of my friends have had children and some were already in school. I was just thinking about having babies barely! So when my married friends and friends with children sort of never had time for me, I got frustrated and couldn't understand why they couldn't return a simple phone call. Now, a married Mom of two young kids, I know WHY my friends had no time to spare for me - and I wish then I knew what I know now. I would have been a much better friend. So to all my friends who I only chat with via Facebook and email - there is a reason why I only communicate via written technology - I'm not allowed to talk on the phone! As soon as I pick up the phone, its like I'm holding on to a "bomb" that's about to explode - my kids will harass me until I hang-up, as if me hanging up the phone was going to stop it from detonating. My dear and old friends will understand how this is so difficult for me - the phone was my friend and I loved to talk on it. Now I'm lucky if I can answer the phone and chat for 30 seconds. And even then, I have to fight my kids to be able to talk with the person on the other end, especially if its Daddy and the Grandparents!
Colleen - from a mom with a couple kids who hate me talking on the phone - here's my tip - lock yourself in your room and then go in your bathroom. They won't die waiting on the outside and if you're two rooms apart - their yelling/crying will be very muffled:-)
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